Slow Down and Listen

 The appointment was over before I had a chance to ask the dermatologist anything.  He came into the examination room, grabbed a bottle of liquid nitrogen and zapped a couple of spots on my shoulder.  He was gone.

The doctor rushed out of the room and instructed the nurse to take a look at the rest of my body and add notes to the file.  I didn’t want to ask the nurse questions.  I had questions for the doctor.  

The appointment that I scheduled months ago and waited forty-five minutes in the waiting room for lasted less than five minutes.

Quality and Professionalism Matter in Divorce

We are all busy.  We sometimes rush through the day to survive.  We don’t have enough time.  However, there are times that we must slow down and listen.  Doctor’s appointments are similar to attorney consultations.  Both are very important and have long-term effects on our lives.  We have to slow down and listen and respond accordingly.

I have met with spouses to discuss possible divorce questions for more than fifteen years.  The most important skill that I have learned during that time is to slow down and listen.  This appointment is a big deal.  The person that I am sitting with has been going through this meeting in their minds for weeks or months.  They have legal questions that need to be answered thoughtfully and professionally.   

Important Questions 

They have built a life with their spouse.  They don’t know how a divorce will change their life.  They have important questions about their family relationships, their home, their children, their retirement, their business and their future.  

• What options do I have?  
• What option is best for me based on what I have shared with you about my family and my station in life?  
• What are the pros and cons of each option?
• What should I expect during the divorce process?  
• How long will it take?  
• How much will it cost?
• What should I expect after the divorce?

The more I listen the better job I do to answer these questions.  The answer for every client I meet with is different.  This is because I am listening.  

Slowing down to listen is just as important as going to law school and gaining years of experience in divorce.  

Mindful Divorce, P.A.

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