Questions to Determine If Collaborative Divorce Fits Your Needs

Divorce is not fun and it’s not easy. This is true no matter which process you decide is the best fit for your divorce.

However, some divorces are much better than others.

Almost all of us know someone that has been through an ugly divorce. In my experience, just about every one of those “ugly divorces” includes a court battle and court delays that make things worse.

If at all possible, in my opinion, you are best served by avoiding a court battle in your divorce. This will help you and your family to avoid the emotional and financial cost that inevitably accompanies these “ugly divorces”.

Collaborative divorce is a proven out of court process that removes litigation and court delays from the equation.

Instead, we work directly with you and your spouse to build options and to reach resolutions that are fair for your entire family. After this hard work is done, we file the required legal documents on your behalf and finalize your divorce.

Below is a list of questions that we ask to help determine if you and your spouse are good candidates for the Collaborative Divorce Process:

Will you be better served in the long run if your spouse (and child) are respected throughout your divorce process?
Do you want your lawyer to be an experienced and ethical leader in your divorce rather than a hired gun?
Are you open to solutions that will respect both you and your spouse’s needs?
Do you want to make decisions that will affect the long-term future of you and your family from a place of calm rather than from a place of anger?
Are you OK with dealing with the discomfort that is necessary to work through the difficult issues in your divorce?
Do you want to reach a fair resolution in your divorce, or do you want to “win” your divorce?
Do you want to have a respectful relationship with your spouse after your divorce is over?[i]