Stressful times can cause any of us to react or behave in a way that is not our best work. Whether it’s the pressure of the holidays, or the end of a marriage, a mindfulness practice can help all of us to better manage intense emotions.
Mindfulness is a practice that helps us to focus on the present. This one skill can change the entire trajectory of your divorce.
Key Benefits of Mindfulness in Divorce:
Reduce Blame and Stress:
Nearly every divorce involves a fair amount of blame and judgment, in most cases this blame, and judgment is waged on ourselves and toward our spouse. Mindfulness provides good simple exercises that help you to focus on your breath and your emotions.
Slow Down & Get Clarity:
The ability to slow down and to take the process one step at a time helps you to obtain perspective on the most important matters for you and for your family. You are then in a much better position to make very important decisions that will have long-term effects on you and your family.
Reach Durable Solutions:
Providing yourself and your spouse with the space that each of you need to work through the process of divorce gives your family the best opportunity to reach a lasting and durable solution. Divorce is a process. It is not a simple event or action. Acknowledging that your divorce will be a process and deciding with your spouse that your divorce process will not be a nasty one is transformative. You can then move forward with a level of trust that neither of you wishes to drag your family through the mud in your divorce. Instead, you can both explore divorce options that will allow you to gather all necessary legal and financial information to reach a fair and durable solution.
Preserve Family Relationships & Finances:
Focusing on the present and the future will help you to consider how you can avoid a legal battle. Once you decide that you are focused on solutions instead of fighting, you are in a great position to find the information that you need to review your customized divorce settlement options. You can then look at these divorce options through a lens of preserving your long term family relationships and your family finances.
Professional Support:
If you and your spouse decide that you do not want to fight in court, you may benefit by scheduling a meeting with a collaboratively trained divorce attorney to discuss different divorce settlement options, and steps that you can take to gather the relevant information that is needed to reach a comprehensive and fair marital settlement agreement.
Your collaborative divorce attorney may provide you with options that include additional resources, such as the help of a financially trained professional, and a mental health professional.
Conclusion:
Divorce is a challenging process, there is no getting around that in my experience. However, if you decide to approach divorce in a strategic and peaceful manner, you can gather the information and resources that you need to navigate your divorce in a fair and prudent manner.
I hope that this helps you, or someone that you know, to reduce the negative consequences of divorce on their family.
If you, or a friend of yours, have questions about out of court divorce options, that include collaborative divorce in Palm Beach County, we are here to help.
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