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How Do I Tell My Spouse That I Want A Divorce?
Broaching the topic of divorce with your husband or wife is no easy task. Informing your husband or wife that you have done everything you can to repair the relationship, and that you have made the difficult decision to end the marriage is as hard as it gets. As a friend of mine often says,…
What Is A Fair Divorce Settlement?
This is a question that I am asked more and more often by a husband or wife during Collaborative divorce consultations. I see this as progress. In the Collaborative divorce setting, fair is exactly what we are seeking. We work hard to help both spouses understand the complete financial picture of their marriage. Next, we…
What Conflict Style Do I Want To Teach My Children?
A presenter at a recent conference I attended asked us, “What Conflict Style Do You Want To Teach Your Children?”[1] That is a powerful question. Do I want to teach my children to escalate conflict, or do I want to teach them to de-escalate conflict? There is no question that divorce is a challenging and…
How Do I Avoid Losing Control Of My Divorce?
Don’t go to court to fight if you want to maintain any degree of control in your divorce. Lawyers and judges are the primary actors in a litigated (contested) divorce. You and your husband or wife are the primary actors in a collaborative (uncontested) divorce. The degree of control that you have in the decisions…
Is Collaborative Divorce a Better Option?
In most cases, the collaborative divorce process is a better option than going to court to resolve your divorce. The collaborative divorce process provides you with options and outcomes that are simply not available in the litigation system. Collaborative divorce is a private resolution process that was founded with the tenets of respect, privacy and…
7 Questions To See If Collaborative Divorce Is A Good Fit For You
Divorce is not fun and it’s not easy. This is true no matter which process you decide is the best fit for your divorce. However, some divorces are much better than others. Almost all of us know someone that has been through an ugly divorce. In my experience, just about every one of those “ugly…