What Do Spouses Ask For Most In Collaborative Divorce?

April 16, 2024  | 
By: Chad Layton, Esq.

mindful divorce spouse ask for collaborativeOne of the cornerstones of collaborative divorce is defining goals and interests that will help you and your family transition to the next phase in life peacefully and respectfully. 

Below, I have outlined a list of the 5 most common goals and interests that we help families to define and accomplish in their collaborative divorce process.  

Continue to Provide Consistent & Loving Parenting 

If you are a parent, your children are what you and your spouse are thinking of first when it comes to your divorce.  You want them to be healthy, happy and confident.  You want them to be in the best position possible to thrive in the post-divorce life that you are creating for them with your spouse.

You have major concerns about how to talk to your children about a divorce, and how to create a plan that will help your children adjust and thrive in their post-divorce life.

Your collaborative divorce team is uniquely suited to assist with this endeavor.  

You will have the opportunity to work with two collaboratively trained attorneys and a child specialist to assure that you make informed and healthy decisions regarding your children.

Financial Goals

You want to secure your financial future.  Going through a divorce raises many questions.  What do we have?  What am I entitled to?  How do we separate our finances?  What does a fair split look like?  Where will I live?  What will my expenses be after the divorce?  How do I create a financial plan for my post-divorce life?  Who can we trust to help us address all of these issues?

It is essential to gather all of the information needed to determine where you are now financially, and how we will help you to move to the next chapter in your life financially.

Your collaborative divorce team will gather this information for you, and then we will help you to build custom solutions that answer all of these questions for you.

Financial stability is a goal and issue that we address in every collaborative divorce.

Personal/Emotional Goals

Often times, our clients find us because they have made the decision that they want to handle their divorce with dignity and respect.  They have no interest in attacking their spouse in court.  They don’t want to take advantage of their spouse.  They don’t want to battle in Court.

They are seeking a private and respectful process that will help them to address the important legal, financial and emotional issues that arise in divorce.

They want to make sure that they are treated fairly.  They want to know that their spouse will also be treated fairly and with respect.  They want to continue to have a civil relationship with their spouse after the divorce is over.  They want to focus on the future and avoid rehashing the past.  If these goals are aligned with what you are seeking, collaborative divorce is a good option for you.

Your collaborative divorce team is trained to help you with each one of these goals and interests.  The professionals that have trained in collaborative divorce understand the damage that court litigation can do to you and your family.  They have decided to help families like yours because they know the collaborative divorce process is a much better solution for your family.

Professional Goals

Many times in divorce, you or your spouse, or both of you, are considering a major change in your professional life.  You or your spouse may have worked mainly in the home or part-time during the marriage.  As you move forward into single life, you may be contemplating going back to school to obtain additional certifications, or degrees.  You may be considering a new career or advancing in your current career.  You may be considering increasing your ability to earn.

Collaborative divorce puts you and your spouse in the position to make a custom plan that considers these professional goals and makes room for you to accomplish these goals.  Often times, helping you to accomplish these goals will help your entire family.  It is a win-win situation.  

Your collaborative divorce team will provide you with experience and guidance to create a plan that will support your accomplishment of these goals.

Moving On Goals – Don’t Waste Time or Money

Very often, you, your spouse, or both of you, see the value in avoiding a long and  drawn-out process.  Avoiding a years-long divorce battle is a high priority for you.  You and you spouse value time and your own emotional well-being.

You have seen others go through a nasty and vindictive divorce that seemed to never end.  You’re not 100% sure of how you want to handle your divorce, but you know that you don’t want to go the route that they went.

Your collaborative divorce team in Florida will very likely resolve your entire divorce in 5-6 months.  The time savings in collaborative divorce is tremendous because you and the professionals you choose to work with are not hamstrung by court delays.  You don’t have to wait for court dates or deposition dates.  Instead, you move forward at a prompt pace to define your goals and interests, and to work toward establishing custom solutions with your team, and then to finalizing your divorce with a final judgment obtained by your team on your behalf.  

Collaborative divorce will provide you with a structured process that is proven to reduce the emotional strain on your family, reduce the time spent on your divorce, and to help you and your family transition into a new lifestyle in a more peaceful and respectful manner.


If you, or a friend of yours, has questions about Collaborative divorce in Palm Beach County, we are here to help.

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